So let me get this clear in my mind- so I understand correctly...


If she is willing to makes changes in herself than you are willing to stay married? Even love her?


Please believe me my tone is one of kindness and respect for you not trying to take any jabs at you.

You insight to my question will help me greatly.

And forgive me- maybe you have made it very clear in the above posts, I just do not have to time at this moment to read them carefully. But I really wanted to get your answer (with lots of reflection) on this.

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)