While I would say it is never too late, I would say that if you are already out of the house, then you need to move to another complex altogether, and stop with the coffee and dinners. If you are gonna go dark, then you need to be dark. You are just playing with your own emotions. You will never be able to detach, free your mind, or GAL if you are still dragging yourself down. By sticking yourself back into the sitch to have the R talks, you are being detrimental to the possiblility of healing yourself, and possibly fixing the M. However, I see no way of repair without the use of some counseling on her/both of your parts.
