Hi Aver, I was just about to send my post - then Poof!! The power went off here at work for about 5 seconds & I lost it!! A sign I need to go home! Anyway, here it is recreated as best I can:
Hi Aver, Sorry to be MIA so long! I had to catch up with your thread the past week – lots happening here! I see you are in the best hands here though. Thanks for your posts & support to my SOS – which turned out to be a non-issue. For now.
I know I’m way late on this but I agree w Pearl & Newmama re: the intervention. I understand your not wanting to leave any stone unturned, but can you really trust his friends? Are they your friends as well? Giving them all that intel on your house sitch worries me a little. Maybe my sitch is coloring my advice here as H’s friends are clearly the enemy to me!
Aver, just to be clear, I don’t feel that your house isn’t worth fighting for! As depressed as living in our house makes me now, for months I felt like you – why should I move out? This is MY house, I worked my a** off on it too. Even my MIL apparently made comments to H that if she were me, she’d leave & tell him to keep his house”. HIS house? Excuse me, I don’t think so! It’s only been in the last several mos. that I’ve considered moving. (Yes I do everything SLOWLY!) So I do understand how you feel & I ache for your pain.
But I can tell you back in Nov. H was asking “when I thought I’d move in w my sister”. Just him saying that made me want to stay there! But your X is pushing now, & wants to move quickly.
I just think what Pearl said is true: We don’t question your fighting for the house, but your motives behind it. Basing your future on what they do. But reading the past week's worth of posts sounds like you are moving toward a decision. You are leaving no stone unturned about fighting for the house and you will make the best possible decision for you on this. I know you will. You are so smart. You are getting toward your decision, you will get there.
I know this was a rough week for you & I'm sorry I wasn't around much but please know you were in my thoughts. Sometimes I get overwhelmed in my thread & dont' make it out to others. But I am always thinking of you and others on here, and how much you help me.
Keep up the GAL, you're an inspiration! I'll be around to check in. Thanks for being there. ((((hugs))))
