unless you plan to be like Paul (of the bible) and never get involved with someone else, then you will still have to open your heart and be vulnerable to trust again. because the divorce rate for second M's is 60% if not higher.
So, learning from the mistakes of the first M and being able to reconcile with the first, will help make the M stronger.
- the divorce rate isn't higher because of trust issues, human nature dictates that once we learn how to do something and accomplish something, doing it again is easier.
So... once you get divorced and you haven't spent the time required to learn about you and what makes you really tick and learn how to overcome your personal problems, you will likely bring those same problems and attitudes into the next relationship and after the sex becomes old again and you both get comfortable with each other to start acting poorly to one another, when things go south, instead of hanging in there longer and trying to make it work, your attitude will be, this isn't worth it anymore, I went through this before, it was long and painful and I'm not sticking around to go through that bull$hit again and presto change o! You divorce easier during the 2nd marriage, and the divorce rates for 3rd and 4th and subsequent marriages are even higher.
When you learn how to do something, it makes it easier to do that something again.
