While she is taking care of her own needs with the online affair, she should realize I am no longer feeling inadequate about myself and I have needs which I need to explore as well.
Is this still co-dependency talk?
I think what I just gave her was a 180 but I am not seasoned enough to pick it out.
"I know you don't really care about my needs right now as my wife so I will ask you as my friend.
What about my needs?
How do I learn how to seduce a woman to begin my next relationship?
I think I might need some practice!" and walked away.
She later walked up to me and said, "I don't have an answer for you but your do ask a very good question".
Good day today - thanks for the support.
I think you gave an idea that you're thinking about doing the same thing she's doing and that's good.
She's thinking why you're asking this question.
She didn't answer because who out of all of us is going to give you the gun to shoot us with? No one.
Go on your pc, and start googling this information and don't hide it.
She hasn't hidden what she's been up to.
Show her that you are starting to move in the opposite direction, instead of chasing her, you move in the opposite direction, she can't reject you if you're not chasing her, in fact, once you start moving away, you give her the chance to catch her breath, relief from your pressure of always being on top of her asking about the relationship, you always show her that you're not waiting around anymore, you get it, she doesn't want you, it's time for you to find someone who does. Once she sees this, she has the option of continuing to move on with her life as she's done or.... the option of pursuing you.
I don't know. Sounds kinda weird that you mentioned to her that you don't know how to seduce women. Sounds like that's what was missing in her life and she went after the OM because he knew how to do just that. Especially since it was a long distance R.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
With respect to OM, she was the one who crossed the line, not him.
Meaning - she knew she could not communicate her needs to me so she went in a "safe" direction to fulfill her needs.
Realizing that laws of attraction are at play here was the thing that opened my eyes to the idea of - who would be attracted to these traits and experiences....seriously, they are not attractive to me and I was the one exhibiting the traits and experiences.
Call it as it is - its behaviour very unbecoming to being attractive.
Detach Self-Inventory Realization that there are some poor habits at play Self Actualization that I can correct some issues Rinse, repeat a few more time
Let air dry on the line and be patient.
This is going to be fun.....like teaching your child how to ride a bike bringing back memories of someone teaching you how to ride a bike type of fun.
Simply put....
Focus on the negative and continue exhibiting unattractive, dependent behaviour
or
Focus on the positive and design a new series of habits and routines which foster independent behaviour.
Choose the former and you are just a guy while choosing the latter puts you into the man category.
As I saw during my first day here, "the world is full of guys, be a man - don't be a guy.
That all changed over the past few weeks when my wife told me she had crossed the line in communicating with a friend in California. The fact was, she liked the feelings she had felt while discussing sexuality with him and told me she wanted to meet him and pursue a physical relationship with him.
What is your wife doing specifically? Sex chat? How long has this been going on? How often? What else do you know about?
