it can be bestowed as a form of quality intimate time together,
Not really. Quality time is more of a mind thing. To me at least. It has to be about talking ideas, chewing the fat, discussing what happened in the news, thinking about what would happen if...blah blah. Sex is intimate but it's not the same thing as quality time. Physical touch is my other LL so sex is fine by me and in fact I was more HD but I would not confuse sex or anything sexual with QT. Or maybe that was just because H was not a QT person.
You are lucky that your wife's primary LL is acts of service. I think a lot of men find that easier to do than quality time.
When I read the LL book I cried at the chapter on quality time, knowing that I wasn't getting any. And it brought to mind a remark my H had made when he said quite unkindly "all you and your family do is sit around a teapot talking". If I'd known the LL stuff then I would have been able to reply "but that's how we show we love each other".
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I still think that two people can have a happy satisfying marriage, even if there languages of love are not the same.
They maybe could if they BOTH are prepared to try and speak the other's LL. If one does and the other doesn't then it gets old pretty quickly to be the one speaking the foreign language the entire time. And I think it's really important to appreciate how difficult it is for someone to speak a LL that doesn't come naturally. All too easily it can get taken for granted.
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
