Since I also live in NY, apparently according to my L you must agree to the separation and then you must wait a year. At that point the D is final. If you don't agree to the separation the D can be faster. That didn't make sense to me but thats the way he explained it to me.
Snodderly has given you a good explanation the way their mind works(or doesn't work).
I find it curious that he is signing the house over to your eldest son when you do have 5 children (or is it 7). How fair is that? None of my business really but just IMHO.
