i made calls about it today. i have a couple good moving forward options. we have virtually no equity in the house and i am the primary on the mortgage so i just need her signature and fill out some paperwork.

how/when should i present this to her?

she wants D to come a quickly as possible and this might throw her off if i start pressing on the gas as well.

M=37
W=40
Married=10,T=12
D=10
D=8
WAW Bomb=1/12
EA confirmed=1/13
EA exposed=1/27
Current In house separation