your take on detachment is spot on <SNIP> I have pasted and copied your words for future use JIC others ask me to explain it. Along with S2 (drop the rope) I believe I have the proper info to pass around.<SNIP> I will be passing this around as I believe it will help all and I know you can not get to everyone here...
Thanks Pat, you're very welcome to pass it on. If it helps anyone that's OK by me. Pay it forward all the way.
Originally Posted By: Gardener
Makes all the sense in the world!
I'm glad Gman.
Originally Posted By: flowmom
Gnosis, your note helps me. I am at a place where detachment is necessary for my emotional well-being and I appreciate how you explained the nature of the process.
You're welcome Flow. I wish I had time to read yours and everyone's threads here. I'll give you my take on the rest of your question later.
Originally Posted By: onthemountaintop
Isn't the hardest part knowing when to detach? Is it when you've moved out, filed, and are weeks away, or is it earlier?
OTMP, there is no "knowing when." IMHO one must start working on detachment the moment the bomb is dropped. I view ILYBINILWY as a declaration of independence from your M. Some M's can be saved others can't. This is ONE of the many reasons why you need to start ASAP. The more detached you are the more you are able to make rational decisions.
Originally Posted By: Wholeagain
I can see how it ....
WA, because your question was tied to Flow's I'll come back to you.
Originally Posted By: cutterbug
I know what the root of all evil is.
Cutter... hmmm... OK... I can't let this one pass me by... The Catholic Nuns refer to it as that attachment between a man's legs. Big root or little root... it doesn't matter, it's EVIL!
