I don't feel real comfortable asking others to spy for me either. However, I do feel like the OWH does deserve to know. And this might help end the A faster with him confronting his W. I think at this point, the OW is not getting any pressure from her side, it's only my H.
I am going to send an anonymous letter to his parent’s house as well as his brother’s house that I will address to the OWH. I know a lot of others on here won’t agree with that way of contact, but until I can speak to him myself I feel the faster I let him know the better. If he decides not to believe this letter, then that is his problem, I know that I would like to know if I was on that side of the fence, no matter how I was told.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10