I can tell this subject hits pretty close to home with you. The thing is that there is really no ONE person who is responsible for the issues. Sure he had his addictions, but did it give his W a reason to cheat? Of course not. She should have just left him. Period.
There is no justification for cheating. Plus the fact that she has not shown any remorse for her actions after he has pretty much placed alot of the burden on himself. Both made mistakes. Both should come clean on their own part of what went wrong.
Let's face it. Oftentimes the WASs that we see on the boards do come across as having a "holier than thou" attitude towards the LBS. Does it give them permission to continue their bad behavior? They don't take the responsibility for the things they did even though the LBS does.
When it seems like she is putting much the onus on HIM changing without understanding why she did what she did is going to lead to disaster. You've seen it time and time again on hear.
Plus, just because someone has had an addictive or abusive past, doesn't give an excuse to how they are in the present. Mike's owned up to his side. It's her turn to do the same.
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