Of course it is an emotional process. I don't recall ANYBODY implying it was not an emotional process. Never once.

Nobody is suggesting not to feel or process what you need to feel and there is no set timeline on how that should go.

However there are certain things... ONE THING... the LBS can set out to do, no matter how hard it is, to get on the path.

No R talks. One thing. That is not to say one should not feel how they need to feel but make ONE GOAL and stick to it.

Nobody is saying ANYBODY is a waste of time. I may be direct but I am NOT cruel and don't consider any human a waste of anything.

That is why we ALL are. To offer support and encouragement as the LBS takes the necessary steps WHILE going through their own emotional process.