Could you take pleasure in doing AOS for him? I used to be really negative about doing AOS for H, but I gradually adopted the POV that doing little things for him "blesses" him. I don't actually think that H's LL is AOS so that effort was probably misplaced, but I did find that I could learn to do AOS in a truly giving spirit.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
