Originally Posted By: june72 YOu don't respect her b/c you are behaving arrogantly.
How? Does everyone like liver? Just because it is good, doesn't make it agreeable.
If I wanted to be arrogant, wouldn't I be saying that she's too stupid for someone like me? I have ADHD, I'm not a perfect prize, although I do like myself. That's self-esteem, not pride.
I want to respect her, I want to feel proud to be married to her. I want to love her for who she is. But, I don't - at least not yet. This isn't a switch called respect I can just pull. Respect comes from the soul, not the mind.
I think that would help me find things to love in her and make connecting, listeing, and helping that much easier. I can love her in a Godly way, but that doesn't mean I love her in a spousal way. If she was a close religious match, I could definately find much more in her to respect, but she isn't.
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She says, 'respect', but I'm not disrespectful to her, so it is hard to identify what she doesn't want.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
