Thank you everyone, today I feel better. Please hijack my thread any time, it helps me alot to hear others sitch. Thanks for all the support, I love this board.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
I paid the online site to find the OWH cell phone number and got nothing. It's like this guy is a missing person or something. I do think I have found his parents address and a brother's address with home phone numbers. However, no one has been answering their phones at these houses. I do have several family and friends helping me to try to get a phone number or address for this guy. My luck, he is the one person not on any social networking site (-:
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
I apologize if this has been suggested or you've explored this avenue but could you follow your H, or her, and see where she lives? At some point in time the woman has to head home..?
nikblondiew, Funny you suggested that, Allen A just suggested the same thing. I will try to find someone who would be willing to do that. I think if a friend needed me to do that, I would for sure. However, a lot of my friends are also my H's friends and have said they want to stay out of it. But I will try to think of someone.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
I don't like the idea of involving friends and family or coworkers in spying on your behalf. Is that the image that you want to project to the world? How important is your ability to contact the OWH at this point? You have the info that you need to DB IMO.
Hang in there (((mb)))
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
flowmom, I don't feel real comfortable asking others to spy for me either. However, I do feel like the OWH does deserve to know. And this might help end the A faster with him confronting his W. I think at this point, the OW is not getting any pressure from her side, it's only my H.
I am going to send an anonymous letter to his parent’s house as well as his brother’s house that I will address to the OWH. I know a lot of others on here won’t agree with that way of contact, but until I can speak to him myself I feel the faster I let him know the better. If he decides not to believe this letter, then that is his problem, I know that I would like to know if I was on that side of the fence, no matter how I was told.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
Well much with anything that is difficult (like this) it is hard to ask or want to involve others but some times that's what's needed in order to achieve the goal. In this case letting a married man know that his wife is cheating on him. I would want to know!
Please, before you send anything type it out here for us to review- I think GNO did something like that- his letter was phenominal and very non accusatory and respectful. Forgive me Gno if it wasnt you- but def get some insite before you committ
