Thank you Bill for that post.

Mike, I could have been your wife. My husband lived most of our marriage the same way you have. Fortunately we are working on things now, but I can concur that living a sexless marriage with a husband that was masturbating to porn was an excruciating experience. Although he told any who would listen that his marriage and family came first, my observation was that it was NEVER the marriage. I was in line after :

--job
--himself/addictions
--kid
--kid sports involvement
--household chores/projects
--Silverado

While I don't think your wife's EA is "right", I can't blame her for it. But it should stop immediately. No need to destroy two families.

Please heed BWorl's advice carefully. IMHO he is spot on.

-Silver