Moving on with my life!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

and because he was a no show, I think it worked out good that you invited him. just shows again how he is not taking responsibility, and just trying to do things at his own convenience.

He has known he can get away with things, so of course he's going to be doing this! this is totally expected! It is like the child that keeps saying please and then the parent gives in after 10 times. that just shows the child that NO actually means YES!

I still say you need to write him an email or something in writing (and copy) about adhering to the courts decision and if that is not possible then he needs to go to the courts to arrange something else, it is not up to you to change the schedule.

otherwise he's going to continue trying to change the schedule.

and SO2, I totally know what you mean about the fear. it's okay, you have a right to feel this way, and it is scary. And yes, perhaps the more success you have as you are standing up to him, the easier it will be. What I think will help is telling him what he should expect. You have already said that you only want texts about baby, but do you need to be more specific? and I think if you talk to him about the schedule, that will help to.

If you have told him what he should expect from you, and you follow thru with those actions, then your fear should be lessened, IMHO.