I do believe those are things he has to figure out, but just like going thru a divorce sitch, which they also must figure out, I think we still have the ability to help lead them in the right direction, but it will be harder.
also, the one thing you haven't tried, is putting the moves on him, or being an irresistible sexy tease. you know I'll be pushing that one on ya forever. lol
not that it will cure his MLC/depression but I think it could improve his self-worth, which in turn, is part of the reasons for MLC/depression, right?
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
you know I'll be pushing that one on ya forever. lol 
