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[stark648]

I wish my WAW was still at home...She is living with the OM. This is my first post. I need help and encouragement. She has been bringing the kids over there! (One daughter won't go)Youngest daughter doesn't want to go back (she's 10). I have cut her off credit card and bank acct. I advised her before I did it, but after that was when she moved more stuff out...She texted me yesterday telling me she "was not ok" and felt like a total f-up. i screwed up and texted her that "I love her unconditionally". No contact yet today. She can't hardly stay at the house for guilt, etc. I can't hardly work because of the thoughts of her & OM. Need prayer and encouragement. I had been more like GAL , and we talk okay as friends, now. That approach did not seem to do well enough after a bit...OM is "needy"--so I was showing how bad I've been affected by this during the last two days. She was actually calling me more and telling me she's not doing good, etc... Do what works, right? I had been changing and being independent, but that seemed to lose steam. I was floored when she said she "felt like such a f-up" --I thought maybe we were on the downhill side at least. Then later she didn't really want to even stay with the kids until I would be home.

M:48
W:35
S:16
D:15
D:10
Md: 12 years
bomb: Jan 8 ?
moved out about then also


HELP HELP

I am going to counselor this aft'noon for me.