Ring On or Ring Off????

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Last night was supposed to be his night with the kids. He has scheduled baseball practice with s11's team for Monday nights. I expected to have the girls until practice was over (8ish), which has become the norm. D16 stayed at school late working on science fair. D13 was at home working on homework. H came to pick up S11, it was a quick stop. Later D13 told me that "dad says you need to feed me dinner on baseball nights." I was a little taken aback----not that I mind in the least, but she explained that he said he didn't have time to feed her after baseball. Not sure how s11 gets fed.............but anyway, I was a little upset that 1. HE didn't tell me or ask for the favor; 2. that he told her to tell me----but even with that, I was more than happy to fix dinner for her. D16 came home stressed about printer not working at school. I helped her print her research and soon got a text from H saying if D16 needed to work late on project that the girls should just stay. I answered "ok." Now, in the past, I would have done what it would take to get them on their way to his place----to make him happy, but I decided that if D16 needed to work to get her project done that came first. H could have come over to get D13----no need for her to stay, but I was just fine having them both for the night. Trouble came when he promised to bring D13 a shirt that was at his house and he didn't show up until we needed to leave, but he sent S11 in the house to drop it off and left. It was interesting at one point he sent me a text telling me to tell D13 to "check her phone." He had sent her a text with a question about what shirt she wanted. I answered "sure - but you can call her too." Our communication about the kids is JUST FINE.

I later got a text apologizing for making me late to work. I simply answered it was not a problem---that I was happy to be there to help D with her outfit---because she needed some help....... I was more worried about D13 being late to school. But anyway......that was my evening/morning.

Tonight (H's night too)D13 is to have softball practice. I will most likely have D16 and S11 most of the evening, and then take S11 to basketball practice. I guess I need to stop complaining about not seeing my kids. I've been told by some that are close to me that he doesn't get a clear picture of what divorce would be like, because I so so much for the kids---but they have to come first and I'm not going to have them left alone somewhere when they can be at home (with me).

Just posting to post.