Oh my goodness, she is definitely putting oyu through the wringer emotionally.

Yes, I agree totally with your boundary.

I think the possibility of an OM is good in a weird way b/c you know that it really is on her end- the demise of the marriage.

As for your 13 son calling another man "dad"... Not a chance in this world! I was a D kid- as a teenager- you usually can't stand the OM or OW. My hubby works with middle schoolers all day long and they complain constantly about the OM, OW, step-parent. Seriously he hears this alot. I think it is rare for there to be bonding once a child is older, IMO.

3 months- ugg! Can you have a count-down calendar, maybe?

Sorry for your personal hell.

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)