Not Me Ever...part 3

[jasper67]

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Look at waht Puppy said- sheer script- ego and pride, that is all. You appear to be the stronger person b/c you are making a stand and he is indded throwing a fit b/c he is weak and w/o power.

[TrentC]

OMG Serenity, I had to come on and read your update. I cannot imagine what you are going through right now.

You and your son deserve so much better than this. And mindfull and the others are telling you the truth. You know what kind of a person you really are, and so do we. Don't let his lies and his fog get you down.

Lotus is absolutely right; if he threatened you, even indirectly, then you need to protect yourself. Let the lawyers and the court system do their work.

[trustingfaith]

Serenity, I agree - ignore his texts, turn off your phone, don't respond. He is throwing a tantrum and lashing out. You know you are not those things he says. You know you are doing the right thing. Don't let him sidetrack you.

So sorry you are going through this!

(((hugs)))

[chatterbug]

How about you block his number. And let it all go to the great gig in the sky... Unless your keeping records to be used later in court.

[stark648]

I posted this elsewhere, but now I've lost it --anybody on-line out here?

I wish my WAW was still at home...She is living with the OM. This is my first post. I need help and encouragement. She has been bringing the kids over there! (One daughter won't go)Youngest daughter doesn't want to go back (she's 10). I have cut her off credit card and bank acct. I advised her before I did it, but after that was when she moved more stuff out...She texted me yesterday telling me she "was not ok" and felt like a total f-up. After that, I screwed up and texted her that "I love her unconditionally". No contact yet today. She can't hardly stay at the house for guilt, etc. I can't hardly work because of the thoughts of her & OM. Need prayer and encouragement. I had been more like GAL , and we talk okay as friends, now. That approach did not seem to do well enough after a bit...OM is "needy"--so I was showing how bad I've been affected by this during the last two days. She was actually calling me more and telling me she's not doing good, etc... Do what works, right? I had been changing and being independent, but that seemed to lose steam. I was floored when she said she "felt like such a f-up" --I thought maybe we were on the downhill side at least. Then later she didn't really want to even stay with the kids until I would be home.

M:48
W:35
S:16
D:15
D:10
Md: 12 years
bomb: Jan 8 ?
moved out about then also


HELP HELP

I am going to counselor this aft'noon for me.

[pearlharbr]

stark, you need to start your own thread if you want feedback.

Serenity, sending good thoughts your way. I just want to echo the others: you know you don't deserve his diatribes. He is pitching a fit and acting like a child. Turn off your phone if you can't handle the texts right now. Definitely save them for legal purposes. Get out tonight with friends/family who value you and will take your mind off this crap.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Just forward them to your attorney.

[kara]

Serenity

I see that your H is not in a detached place at all.Who is he trying to convince that he endured a life with you for 20 yEARS? Absolute nonsense. He is not in a good place and I can tell by looking on from afar. I believe there is a lot of pain behind his words. Just my 2 cents.

[SDFoundGirl]

Do this:

Call the police and get a restraining order against both of them. You have to fear for your safety.

...and then get a lawyer. At the very least get a separation agreement into place if you're not willing to file for D.

Go get that piece of paper where you wrote down all the amazing things about yourself and read it over and over.

Why would you believe the words of a man who left his W to have an affair and his children left homeless? Why are his words about you more credible and valuable than what you know to be true about yourself? Why are you willing to accept anything he dishes out?

It's time to Do Something Different. It's time to step up and say Enough! YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT, AND I DON'T CARE WHAT HORRIBLE THINGS YOU THINK YOU MAY HAVE DONE IN YOUR LIFE, YOU ARE WORTH FAR, FAR, FAR MORE THAN THIS!

It's time to reclaim your life and your identity. Your H is a piece of sh!t, not even, because even sh!t has some value in fertilizing things.

Brave people aren't free of fear; they're people who feel the fear and do it anyway. Be brave. Put on your asskicking boots.

And stop reading his texts. Just save them for your lawyer.

SD

[Gardener]

He is LYING. The choice is ours to give those lies credit or to laugh them off. I'd say laugh them off because underneath all those lies is a pityful little boy having a tantrum because you're not towing the line anymore. Let him boohoo in the corner(((( Serenity )))))

^^^^Bingo, Gno!^^^^
Serenity, why not call up your phone company and drop/disable texting for a month. One month. Just try it. An experiment.
(((())))