I hear you with regards to the settlement agreement. I head into round 3 of mediation tomorrow and long term parental scheduling is on the table along with division of property. I too am seeking JPC, which I believe gives me identical custody rights.
We are currently splitting custody 50/50 since she moved out. My W early on said she would not require me to pay more than my 50% share of child costs. Given her dire financial circumstances she may change her tune tomorrow.
Apparently, I could be on the hook for child support regardless of the fact that we have a 50/50 split, in addition if she continues to be unemployed I could find myself on the hook for spousal support, even though she has pulled in as much or more income than me in the 15 years we have been married.
Fortunately or unfortunately (depends on your vanatage point) we have significant equity built up in our home. She is more than likely licking her chops in anticipation of collecting her share given the assinine financial situation she has put herself in.
Part of me wants her financial situation to continue to deteriorate further to teach her a lesson but the problem with that thinking is the court would likely require me to bail her out.
All we can do is hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
Good for you on getting out to play some hoops, nothing like a good sweat to burn off the stress and anger associated with the horse crap we find ourselves buried in.
Keep it up and keep you mind off of what your W is doing.
Writing that last line helps me reinforce it in my mind as well.
Hang in there!
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)
