Iwant...... I know what you mean about the self esteem...although we each are responsible for our own, it's entirely understandable we feel this way given what each of us have been through. For me, after I found out about my H affair with my exbest friend I felt utterly in adequate in every sense. I felt unattractive, oh yeah I could go on and on about it. Felt like why wasn't I enough? Now I'm trying to grasp that maybe just maybe someone will want to be with me and maybe even love me.