I know counseling would help. I did get tapes for Divorce Care, but at the time there wasn't a class that was convenient. My best friend is a social worker so she is my unofficial therapist. She is always saying things like "your feelings are valid", etc. She and my sisters got me through my divorce.
Just when I am feeling more at peace, my daughter runs off and gets married AND pregnant. It makes me so sad. She isn't even happy which really makes me the most sad. I don't know if the same thing would have happened if her dad and I hadn't gotten divorced, but I do feel like she was unsettled after I moved, but insisted on not moving with me.
