For the grieving or lbs spouse, getting stuck means remaining in one place and never venturing forth. You've managed to move forward and are living your life, but yet your expectatiions are still there for him. Getting stuck means never looking ahead and planning your life as if he will not return. Some people tend to get stuck in the denial stage, others in the anger stage. You have to find ways to focus on your and your daughter, try to find something of interest that you both can sit down and talk about.
When your daughter is ready, she will talk to you. Some will not talk about what has happened and will be "driven" to over achieve in other areas of interest. Some day, she will open up to someone about the situation and it may not be you, but a best friend. Don't push it....give her the space she needs as well. She may not feel that you are emotionally ready to listen to what she has to say. No one really knows what goes through their heads either.
Keep moving forward.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
