It's been a couple days, mostly calm. W is out of town for the rest of the week. Not in the town with OM, but i will be alerted if he is in the same town.
W feels "miserable" in my home. I ask her why and she says that i'm telling friends what's going on and that her rep will be ruined. She is much more worried about what others think about her than how she treats me.
i ask her moving forward what would make her feel less miserable. she states that she does not trust that i'm not looking at her email and phone etc. I say that i'm done with that(which i am) i proved what i thought and i don't need to see any more. she feels trapped and wants to get another place. i say go ahead, but our kids will be with me 1/2 of the time and it will do you no good to not trust me. i think she understands that, but is very unforgiving. i told her that i choose to believe her that she is not contacting OM, if she chooses to lie to me again i will eventually find out without looking. W says you don't have to worry about OM she has terminated contact. I will give her this rope and see if she hangs herself.
i have GAL her all weekend. went out with friends, and she said "seems like your having fun" i said "yep." she wanted to make sure i was following the boundaries i set, i am. i'm sure that doing the laundry and cleaning the house and doing dishes is starting to wear a bit on her.
she has talked about selling the house, but i would rather stay in it. so i'm talking with the mortgage company today to see if i can take her name off of the mortgage and deed. when should i share that info with her?
M=37 W=40 Married=10,T=12 D=10 D=8 WAW Bomb=1/12 EA confirmed=1/13 EA exposed=1/27 Current In house separation
