Tears are healthy. Crying out to God in your sorrow is the ultimate in healthy. Feeding your spirit is just as important as feeding your mind and body. Keep doing that. Bible intake, prayer, community with fellow believers, all of these are imperative especially now.
Do you belong to a small group at your church? If not, why not? There have to be a number of men's groups there. Join one, commune with others. You don't even have to share what is going on in your current situation if you don't want to right now, but just being in the presence of other men who believe is food to your spirit.
God has a plan. You may not see it right now, but He will reveal it to you. Watch for it. You know the best position to see what God's wishes for you is? On your knees with your face to the floor, praising Him.
GIMA, I keep you in my prayers daily and I hope that you can feel the waves of love and support from your friends here.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Thanks guys. This is just the sucky part of "embracing the suck."
All of your support means a lot to me. Thank you all.
Mishka, I am looking at new churchs for myself. And, yes, I am looking for a group to join up with for support - whether it's a D group or a mens' Bible study group. I agree that would be very good for me right now.
I know I've said it before, but if there is a church in your area offering DivorceCare do yourself a favor and go. It is by far the best support you could ever find. All biblically based with guidance from facilitators who have been through D. Typically it is led by a couple who are in their 2nd M and can led support.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I know I've said it before, but if there is a church in your area offering DivorceCare do yourself a favor and go. It is by far the best support you could ever find. All biblically based with guidance from facilitators who have been through D. Typically it is led by a couple who are in their 2nd M and can led support.
There is one a friend of mine is going to, but I missed the registration and sign up deadline. I will keep looking.
It's too bad that you live so far north. The church I attended at has it perpetually so there is never a deadline. Join whenever and cycle through all the videos. You eventually catch all of them. We are actually starting a second group because there are too many people in the original one (sadly) and I am facilitating it with a man from the group. We're good friends so it will make it comfortable enough to teach it.
I hope you can find one in your area.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Came home early so I could see the kids before going to my Divorce Care meeting tonight. On the way home, my L calls to tell me that stbxw's L wants to go to mediation rather than talk now to see if we can resolve the case. So, unless stbxw changes her mind, we will be paying 3 L's not the 2 we really can't afford!
I get home, see the kids. Hug them and ask how their day went. Then, the phone rings. I answer it and it is the stbxw of one of my friends (friends stbxw is in a full out PA and is unashamed about it - she's "entitled" to it). I know this woman is a toxic influence on my stbxw and I know this harlot has said some very ugly things about me. I answer with a "Hi," She says, in a really sappy sweet voice, oh, hi, how are you. I don't say anything. She says well, uh, is Lisa there? Yeah. And I hand the phone to my stbxw. Funny, my stbxw didn't want to talk to the adulterer. Whatever.
SO, I bugged out of the house, and am at a coffee shop until my Divorce Care meeting tonight. W seemed surprised (and she should be) that I was "going out." She has forfeited her right to know where I am going. As long as the kids are ok, then to hell with her. You want to be on your own sweetie, well this is what it will be like. Enjoy.
I am in control, despite my snarky post. Hurt, yes. But, in control.
