In my sitch I was actually the WAS by attitutde initially- I knew my needs weren't getting met so I met them elsewhere- a little bit of an EA which I termintaed.
As soon as W became the WAS- I was all about the marriage- actually I devoted myself a week prior when I ended the EA.
So now I am getting back the WAS attitude and lifestyle- my needs are not getting met and I am responsible for them- not W.
work in progress. But hopefully my experience above shows the dynamic shift that should occur.
