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[awest1217]

Still kind of perturbed this morning. H did text me to find out if I got to work ok. Tons of snow here and more on the way...up to 14 inches. Never did he say sorry about not answering the phone or even mention it. He just went on about how his night was bad and how he would help me go grocery shopping if I wanted, but he wanted to be home early. I said I wasn't going shopping (it is supposed to get horrible here right when I get out of work) so he could just go straight home and hopefully have a better night since he won't have his normal Tuesday meeting today.

He noticed I was short so asked what was up. I told him I was upset about him not answering the phone and that S was crying for him and he just wanted to say good night. I then asked what went wrong last night, and he said that he couldn't sleep and when he finally did go to sleep, he forgot to take off his ring last night before bed and it fell off while he was sleeping so he was late to work because he was trying to find it. So if he was up, why didn't he answer? Never said sorry or anything. I took the high road and said I hoped he had a better day and that he can just go home tonight and relax (not like I ever get to do that).

I know I am assuming and shouldn't, but I am pretty sure his not being able to sleep is because of OW. Last year at this time is when we were fighting all the time because OW was becoming an issue and he never slept. When he did leave, he said he was glad that he could finally sleep again. We always fought right before bed because I wouldn't talk about our issues until after S went to bed, which was 8 so we would then start talking around 8:30 and fight until 11 or midnight just to get up the next mornign at 6am, but of coarse we would take a while to go to sleep. I really think him and OW are fighting like we used to and like Lolal said a while ago, I am now the OW. I don't fight with H. I let him know that I am upset and why then let it go. We don't fight. I bet she calls him around 9, like she has the entire time this has been happening, or later. They start talking then he gets mad or she gets mad. They fight and then spend a while texting each other until they are no longer as mad or at least have resolved the anger. I just don't know what to think about this. I am going to try really hard not to check the phone records, but I still could since I haven't sent out the check yet. I could ask him, but I think he would just say they aren't fighting. I think I am going to just try to tell him when I am upset and just then let it go like I would like our new relationship to be. Then next week, after I see if anything at all happens this weekend (not planning on it), talking to him about my feelings with OW and her H being gone and how I am very uncomfortable and just lay it all out. It will be hard and I don't know if I should talk to him in person, e-mail, phone, etc. I think in person is best.

So on with another day. I really hope they cancel school early for safety reasons. Since I have been at work, one hour, it has probably snowed about 1/4 of an inch, and is coming down harder now then before. Maybe a 2 hour delay tomorrow? Just no snow day...I have a four day weekend anyway, Friday and Monday off, so I don't need a day this week.