The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

Well let's see. The wife has stayed over this weekend and asked if she could stay over last night as well. We have not ML and it's almost like we're roommates? She has kept up w/ the pressure bit. She keeps yammering on about her lease running out on her apartment and that she needs to know something by 14 Feb or she has to renew her lease. She could rent month to month but that's obviously more expensive.

The first day I was back from my business trip I commented to me daughter that that house needed to be picked up and proceeded to do so. When the wife got home, she asked me daughter if I complained about the house and she said yes. So the wife confronted me and and asked if I said that. Yep, I did but it wasn't as bad as my daughter said. She said, well I'm going back to my apartment then and proceeded to pitch a fit. I said, Ok, see ya. Then she called my daughter a liar and asked if I was going to confront her on it. I told her no, my daughter only expressed to you what she heard and percieved and that does not make her a liar. The wife was shocked and accused me of siding with my daughter. Here's where it gets good.

I told her that I had no reason to not trust my daughter and wasn't going to be a hammer on something that really wasn't that important. She asked, so you don't trust me? NO, I don't. Why not? Are you serious? I asked her what kind of relationship she wanted to have with her daughter? Did she want to mend it or come in and be unsupportive and overbearing and have a daughter that didn't want to be around her? She listened, to what extent, I don't know.

Anyway, she settled down over the weekend but Monday night it was back to demanding, negative, pressuring, tired WAW. She basically demanded a parking spot back in the garage which I ignored. The only thing I have asked for is that she go to counseling--I have asked twice about this and her response both times is that she has not had time to call.

How do you make someone understand something without being overbearing and insensitive? I want her to understand that I will not reward bad behavior.

I've shared all this with my father and he asked if I would do something for him. I said sure. He said, I want you to get some duct tape and cut about a 12 inch piece and put it on your leg. I want you to pull it until it is almost all the way off and then I want you to put it back on cause that's what you are doing with this marriage. I thought that was ironically funny.