Trent, I've been following your thread and just wanted to say that you're in my prayers. Sorry to read that you are going through another shock so soon. Wish I could say more.
((hugs))
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10
There is one thing I do probably need to be 2x4'ed for. I texted her and asked her why the clinic was wanting to schedule a surgery. So she knows that the jig is up.
She called like 10 times while I was on the bus (straight to VM for those) and sent one text msg which I have not read. They stopped pretty quickly, so I guess she got on her plane.
She's probably been on a plane for an hour and a half at this point, and isn't due to land for another hour and a half.
I am lost. I don't know what to say or do. But I guess I have an hour and a half to figure it out before the calls start again.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
DO NOT answer them. It's time for her to be in the dark for a change. She seriously crossed your boundary. Time to pack up her things and show her the consequences of her actions.
If you do not show her consequences, she will continue to walk all over you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
((((Trent)))) No 2x4's from me either. You love your W and wanted your M to work. No shame in that. You wanted to be able to believe her, and yuo should have been able to.
I will pray for you tonight, for your conversation with your W. Stand your ground... firm and calm.
Trent, I'm another follower but don't post to you.
I agree with the others. You wanted it to work while your W continued to lie to you. Personally I think lying about her condition, or lack thereof, is heinous and I'm not sure how you could want a future with someone who would hurt you so deliberately. Pack her things, leave them outside, then focus on taking care of you.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Trent - If you want some further advice, I really think you should start a thread in MLC. It has quite a few more people dealing with the batchitt crazy you are experiencing.
Hey Trent. I know what this feels like. Especially the sacrifice of no children to stay with the woman you love. And then to have it thrown in your face. I know what this feels like.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Trent, follow the advice given to you. What Stuck and Kerry tell you. Dont regret anything you did. Learn form it and move on. She does not deserve you. Stay strong K
You will only get support and prayers from me. I have a real problem with people who lie about medical conditions. There is so much real suffering in the world ehn people who are blessed with health "go there" it really sets me off. So for the life of me I cannot understand your W's actions and I am seriously shocked.
But this is about you. You have acted with the utmost honor and you will never get a 2x4 for that. Be good to yourself and take whatever time you need to process things.
As for your W, I am assuming that she is so fogged out that she is totally out of her mind and has not realized what she is doing. I am praying for her as well.
Wish I could say more.