Sorry I got a virus on my computer and just got it back running now.

I don't know why but my H came back from his ski trip in a MISERABLE mood. Lashing out horribly - and after such an uplifting birthday last week! He spent 3/4 of our MC yelling and blowing up. Finally he calmed a little and could hear the MC say that I feel afraid of his anger. (I also was told H feels I never follow through so I can't be trusted - gotta work on that!) I just thought he got it when we got home he started in again. It's killing me not to know what's underneath it.

Will not tell me what is upsetting him so. So to protect myself and detach, I spent the evening GAL with my friend. When I came back he was calmer, but still admitted "a bunch of $hit" is stressing him out.
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I'm working so hard on not panicking, not mind reading. My first impulse is - what did I do now?! Stop blaming myself and assuming. If he's mad at me, he'll come out with it sooner or later. Of course, that's what I'm afraid of.


Me: 42
Him: 43

Two divorcees in a relationship