mb, I have observed that many of us "fake" GALing at first and get resentful that we "have" to do it, even. But then something magical happens...we start getting more ideas, we ENJOY it, and somewhere in the process it becomes about US and not them! It is a process, though. GALing has increased my self esteem and is (in turn?) helping me to detach...a little at a time!

So don't stop GALing. And be very very patient....progress is SLOW but the changes are more permanent when you don't rush it, IMO!


me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004