YOu don't respect her b/c you are behaving arrogantly.
How? Does everyone like liver? Just because it is good, doesn't make it agreeable.
If I wanted to be arrogant, wouldn't I be saying that she's too stupid for someone like me? I have ADHD, I'm not a perfect prize, although I do like myself. That's self-esteem, not pride.
I want to respect her, I want to feel proud to be married to her. I want to love her for who she is. But, I don't - at least not yet. This isn't a switch called respect I can just pull. Respect comes from the soul, not the mind.
I think that would help me find things to love in her and make connecting, listeing, and helping that much easier. I can love her in a Godly way, but that doesn't mean I love her in a spousal way. If she was a close religious match, I could definately find much more in her to respect, but she isn't.
