You think she is unintelligent and you are superior in intellect, is that it?
A lot of the intellegence gap might be just from language differences (she's ESL), but there is a gap. Superior, no, but a noticible gap.
I KNOW I should just love her. Is that realistic, though? How do you love what you do not love? If I make a joke, she usually doesn't get it. Others I know have no problem. If I explain a situation/problem, others get it. She often doesn't. Worst off, I think, is that she doesn't love learning, so she isn't building her knowledge/skill, except by experience.
Is she attractive (height, etc.). I know now that I can be attracted to her when we are connecting well. Is she attractive? To me, no. I want to be attracted to her, but I'm starting to think respecting her might be the key. Her height I can deal with. Her face and body falling to peices because she doesn't eat properly, won't buy nice clothes for herself (etc) are harder to accept. Not because she IS that way, but because she doesn't care. How many women don't dress up and try to look beautiful (for themselves first, for their spouse second of course)? It is hard to respect someone who doesn't respect herself.
