OK, I guess I should ask... what are the reasons for you not respecting her?
I'm coming to realize that while I love the idea of being M, and love her like I would for anyone with me, my lack of respect for her is a big prob. That's probably why many of my lists/thoughts tend to talk about her more than they should. I can build love, I can improve communication, but how do I improve respect?
I don't respect: - she doesn't take care of herself physically (95 lbs, 100 when preg) - when fighting, she fights 'unfairly' (this might change, self-esteem issues) - we have some important religious differences (she has grown less connected) - she sees the world very differently. (She was upper-middle class in her country, but it took her six years to really accept that most others were struggling) - skill and knowledge gaps - she will agree to what she doesn't believe. - overall, she is very, very dependant on me for so many things - she is oversensitive, more than most women I've known, so she is hurt and hurts so quickly
I really need solutions to find respect for her. I'm trying to make a list each day of things that I liked that she did. Anything else?
