[list] [*]Her care with money [*]She has changed somewhat over the years [*]She has accepted moving place to place with me during my first few years teaching [*]She cooks/cleans/etc. (stay at home, but our religion tells us that she doesn't have to do these unless both parties agree) [*]She cares about our kids
The list was simple, but hard. Each time I began writing, I found something that negated what I respected. For example, I was going to write charitable, but then she does that to the point of self-sacrifice and will even risk her health for really little things.
Some reasons I have problems showing my W respect are: - I've tried not to be 'image conscious'. When she said that she felt odd next to me being 4 11 and me 5 11, I said that I felt we 'fit' together well. I really thought that true in public places. In private, her height is kind of uncomfortable. So I guess I'm saying in public, it is not the look, it is the who underneath. I want to feel I have a skilled, smart woman by my side. I don't feel that way. I want to feel that way about her, but I don't know how to develop that~
- Part of this is my standards for her. I find it hard to say, 'well, she grew up in different circumstances, so I should accept that she can't do even fairly simple math at the store'. I should accept them, I know. How?
Should I have a longer list of things I respect? Should I try to "teach" or develop her into someone with skills or whatever that I can respect?
