Flowmom, I agree with everyone else. Esp with the evasive behavior.
Personally, I always thought if I were in this situation- I would hire a PI right away and find some answers. Puppy talks about using a cheap cell phone in your spouses car as a GPS device. See if he is sleeping elsewhere. Also a cheap voice activated recorder taped to the inside of the car, keylogger on your computer...
Just thoughts..
I feel like you can not more forward with a plan of action till you "know the enemy". Meaning you really know what the heck is going on and then make an informed decision.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)