Suggestions, yes Everyday you do homework. The homework being that you state 3 things you like about the other person. Different things everyday.
You also sit together and look into each others eyes for a few minutes and then after that hug for sevearl more minutes.
Also, you plan time ALONE together- maybe at a hotel or something and do something as simple as watch tv together. Lay on the bed and simply snuggle.
Randomly during the day you say kind words to her and randomly kiss her cheek or rub her back, give her a nice smile
The communications patterns are not working -so change it up.
Women like to vent while men are problem solvers. Let her vent- listen and "I am sorry about that, sound like you have a rough day, can I do something to help you?" (in a really sincere, kind voice)
If she comes at you yelling- learn the phrase "I'm sorry you feel that way"
Men have the huge urge to defend themselves during what they perceive to be an attack (or is an attack). The calmer your remain, the calmer she will eventually get. Look attentive, not upset, look concerned, during her rant- give her an unexpected hug and say "I'm sorry you are upset". Note you are not apologizing for anything. Just letting her know taht you are emapthizing with her....
Write her a beautiful love letter and leave it in a spot that she will see.
Just some thoughts.....
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
