Responding to BillM's quote that LFA posted--

Yes, sigh, that is the place I am now. Whine whine I don't want this or that.
No fair, foul ball, this isn't what we agreed to!

Sigh again, and repeat the mantra: it is what it is. Arguing with reality only makes the pain worse. Accept the situation. Respond appropriately.

I mean to do some reading on "resilience." I could certainly use more of it!

Just wanted to let you know I sympathize with the I DON"T WANT this feeling. I guess we all do, right?

Keep on keeping on.

Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process