feel like giving up - talk to me!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

If he could put on his big boy underwear and text another woman and communicate to her and turn her on, he could have done the same with you if he valued you and the relationship he had with you.

I keep thinking about this... if we believed this with everyone on here, no one would save their Ms.

remember, both people are hurting, and that's why As happen. does it make it right? of course not, but if your a christian, and you believe in the words of Jesus... "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." I believe this would go for many things. We have all sinned against God and those that we love, and that is also why Jesus has taught us forgiveness. Granted luv, your H is not asking for forgiveness now, but the more we blame those that hurt us, the more we will hold bitterness against them, and the less we are capable of forgiving, and the less we are capable of "pulling the log out of our own eye".

I just needed to put those words out there.

but, Rob is right, that you do not want to tolerate his behavior. But you need to develop your boundaries and decide how to enforce them. do not focus on blaming. Focus on the fact that you are becoming a wonderful woman, and that God is shaping you into the woman he created you to be, and you are proud of who you are becoming, and that H will be at a loss if he does not see that. And then you START BECOMING THAT WOMAN.