oh, and this 1998 thing is news to me. Did you have any evidence that HE was involved in an A? or was it just that email that you found, and nothing from him.
I think that answer might change how I feel about this sitch, and what steps you should do next.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."