Still have a future to invest in, even if it's not the planned one. I guess all those emotional objections that come up (but I don't WANT to divide up finances! I don't WANT to spend less time with the boys! I don't WANT to give up my home) are giving way to, this is how it is, what to do next? Acceptance. Hopefully I'm in a healthier place now. I guess there's a part of me that on some level feels that giving up what "should" be is some sort of character flaw. Justifies carrying around the emotional weight, sort of like "can't you see that this is more important than anything else..." When in fact it seems like the character is the resilience, the ability to cope and to adjust.
Hi Bill, So true, giving up the planned future is hard. For so long I haven't wanted to deal with the business/legal stuff, now slowly I am. Not easily but as you said, this is how it is. This is reality now, certainly not the planned future for me, you or anyone else on here I'm pretty sure. Just wanted to let you know I'm following along, even if I don't always comment b/c I don't think I can offer anything helpful. Except my support, you really described how I feel here. Hoping you are doing OK. (((((Bill))))
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