No 2*4's from me. Love is blind and can cause denial. You wanted your marriage to work.
It seems she lied about not ever being able to have children with the intention that it would make you give up the marriage easier and allow her to go live with her Rocky Mountain man. She has stabbed you in the back and twisted the knife. I dont know how one can forgive and reconcile a marriage after the deceit she has pulled on you.
Give up any thoughts of Retro or her coming back because it sure sounds like she is gone for good - emotionally and mentally.
I think you are at the point where you need to stand up and protect yourself legally. Talk to a lawyer. It may entail filing for a D. Your W may have a change of heart during the process, but I doubt it.
I know that you want a loving lifetime marriage and a family. It is not too late to start over. I got married when I was 38 and had my son when I was 40.
What sort of advise would you give to someone in your situation?
