Just to be clear.... kids are very perceptive. You think a kid won't notice that mom and dad are faking a married relationship? All you're doing is teaching your kid that this is what a normal relationship is like. Is this the type of relationship you want your kid to have when they grow up? Do you want them to be cheated on and taken advantage of? If so, continue doing what you're doing, you can use all the fancy words in the world to explain to them what you're doing but it's actions, specifically your actions that they will learn from.
But the opposite is also true - when Mom and Dad go through the motions for 9 years without arguing yet lacking a close intimacy, a child is able to pick up on shortcomings.
She and I have communicated more in the past few days than we have in 10 years prior.
