""She wants the trappings of the stay at home mother life but she wants to be able to explore herself as an individual - to reconnect as a human being with other human beings."
This phrase is what I meant wasn't cake eating. Having the OM is. I was just referring to the phrase which he said was the cake-eating part.
Many of us can grow as individuals while in a R. It's just human nature.
It doesn't sound like she's still with the OM although that has got to be the lamest excuse I've ever heard with her equating the OM with his smoking. It's just a way of her to lessen the impact of what she did.
That's also called cake eating Stuck. There are many variations of cake consuming behavior. Might as well offer her some milk to go with it, that cake can get pretty dry after a while.
