I know I am guilty of thinking now that I GET IT, she should see it and try harder too.
She will not change right now. In fact, she may get really angry that you "finally" get it....but in her mind, it's too little--too late.
You have to make the choice that no matter how she reacts....you are going to do what you know is the right thing to do. That also includes becoming the best man you can become. You don't do it to please her. You aren't suppose to change to make her happy and please her. If that's your goal, then you need to stop right now and take another look and start over. You cannot "make" her happy and I haven't see a woman yet who doesn't think her H needs improving, so forget about pleasing her 100%. Your focus needs to be happy with who you become. (After improving yourself, of course.) When you like yourself and know yor are doing the best you can do, then you'll be more convident and you'll like yourself, and that raises you self-esteem. If you respect yourself, then others will also. Right now, your W doesn't respect you.
It will save you much, much pain if you will stop watching and waiting for her to change. The board isn't about her changing. It is about you changing and doing work. So, the first thing is to get your eyes off of her. Can you do that?
BTW, which thread are you going to use?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
