Just want my H back

[talia]

HI H,
I'm glad counseling went well!! Sounds like you are totally on track.

The respect comment seems to be bugging you. I will have to go back and look - but I think that was during your obsession with retrovaille???? I hope I'm not mixing people up If so....
Your posts on here seemed to tell us you were obsessed with getting him to go - even though he was obsessed with getting you to leave it alone. That's pursuing and breeds dis-respect. Hence the comment. That comment was directly related to where you were at that time - you've come a ways since then...

I don't see how he CAN'T respect you after Sat!! Clearly you handled that well and he noticed. Snarky comments are what you get when they don't know how to react...

As long as you stand up for yourself where needed - the tax thing is a great example - you should be fine. You are right - he clearly hasn't worked on himself and most of those things are totally his problem. You move on with your life and leave him to regret - you know he will eventually!!

I think what you did wrong in the marriage is irrelevant at this point. You need to treat him however the NEW YOU would want to treat a "friend". Stop trying to treat him however the opposite of old you would treat him. Just be NEW YOU - in all your glory - he doesn't deserve any more thought that that...


Hope that helps....

T