Remember back in 1998 I caught him "talking" to another woman at his office. She left him a voicemail telling him she misses him and hoped his wife didn't get the message. I wrote her to act like a lady and stay out of my marriage and keep her relationship with H strictly business. I then wrote her boss. She was fired. Later on about 2 months later H was laid off with severance. He believes to this day it was my fault he lost his job and blames me!
If that was true that he blames you... then he would have learned his lesson wouldn't he? He knew what you were capable of and yet still persisted to pursue another OW. That means he didn't get laid off because of that incident. Don't let him gaslight you anymore.
